The Illusion of Emotional Safety: Unmasking Avoidance, Withdrawal, and Aggression
Feeling physically and emotionally safe is a fundamental human need. Physical safety is self-explanatory, while emotional safety refers...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Apr 24
- 2 min
What does Processing Experiences Mean for PTSD Patients?
I am fascinated with how the human brain works, especially when it comes to painful experiences. I read an article today that piqued my...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Mar 21
- 2 min
How to Stop Self-Sabotaging
In the vernacular of therapy, self-sabotaging means not choosing yourself, or not prioritising your own betterment. In this article, I'll...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Mar 15
- 1 min
We are all addicts in one way or another.
Addiction is often viewed as self-destructive behavior, one that is characterized by a loss of control over substance use. However,...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Feb 28
- 2 min
What is Love?
Whether it’s a philosophical question or a romantic sentiment, the concept of love has been pondered throughout the ages. It is something...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Feb 23
- 2 min
Exploring the Advantages of Transactional Relationships
Human relationships are complex and multifaceted, and they often involve some degree of transaction. A transactional relationship is one...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Feb 1
- 2 min
Attachment Theory
Attachment theory is a psychological model that describes the nature of emotional bonds between individuals and the ways in which these...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Nov 10, 2022
- 2 min
Fighting Anxiety by Not Fighting It
An anxious brain is healthy and a very protective brain because you might have experienced hurt or some sort of trauma in the past and it...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Sep 18, 2022
- 1 min
Being Hard on Yourself
“Why are you so hard on yourself?” That was what my client’s manager asked my client, and that’s how she ended up on the couch – to...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Aug 28, 2022
- 2 min
Catastrophizing - A False Sense of Control
“Our mind is not our friend,” half-joked my partner-in-crime one day when we discussed our case study. Our primitive brain is a...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Jul 6, 2022
- 3 min
Virtual Confidence versus Confidence in Person
“How is it possible that I struggle to carry a conversation in person when I am so confident talking behind a screen?” This is a common...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Jun 21, 2022
- 3 min
How to Communicate Better
One of the top five reasons why people come for therapy is to learn how to express themselves and communicate better. Nowadays, a smoke...
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Nachum Kaplan
- Sep 7, 2021
- 2 min
The Trauma of Moral Injury
Trauma takes many forms. Some such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) have become common terms in recent years, but one kind of...
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Nachum Kaplan
- Jul 15, 2021
- 2 min
Step Outside The Box
Personality tests are a common tool in the Life Coaching industry but I don't use them and here are some of the reasons why. Firstly,...
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Hui Wen Tong
- May 24, 2021
- 3 min
Attachment and its Impact on Sense of Self
"Look at how a kid behaves and you'd know how his/her parents are like." "What an unbelievably rude person! He must be raised in a barn!"...
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Hui Wen Tong
- May 9, 2021
- 2 min
What's in a name? That which we call Counselling
We take paracetamol for headaches, eat when we need food, sleep when we are tired and see a doctor when we are unwell. Why can't we see...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Apr 2, 2021
- 3 min
Calming the Anxious Mind
We all react to things or people around us differently. What can be stressful for one person might be a storm in a teacup for another and...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Oct 3, 2020
- 3 min
Tantrums - When Our Patience is being Tested
In my previous article, I wrote about why babies cry. This article is on why kids throw tantrums. A tantrum is an emotional outburst, as...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Aug 20, 2020
- 2 min
A Matter of Perception
Perception is our interpretation of what is presented to us. As shown in the picture above, both perceptions (the circle and the square)...
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Hui Wen Tong
- Aug 2, 2020
- 2 min
Selfless vs. Selfish
Has anyone ever told you that you are too nice? Or that you put others before yourself a little too much? It can be hard to find that...
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