Finding Your Way Back After the Unthinkable.
Whether you are struggling with the shock of a discovery or the weight of a secret, we provide a safe, non-judgmental space to navigate the trauma of betrayal and explore the possibility of healing.
Does this sound like you?
Betrayal Trauma
You feel shattered, experiencing flashbacks, intense anger, or hyper-vigilance about your partner's every move.
The "Why" Loop
Your mind is stuck on a loop, constantly asking how this happened and if you ever really knew your partner.
Emotional Distance
You feel a profound loss of intimacy and trust, wondering if the connection you once had can ever be repaired.
Decision Paralysis
You are torn between the desire to stay and the urge to leave, feeling overwhelmed by the complexity of the situation.
Can Trust Be Rebuilt?
Discovering infidelity is often described as a trauma that shatters your sense of reality. It's common to feel like the ground has been pulled out from under you. At StayingSane101, we understand that this is a moment of deep crisis, and our first goal is simply to help you find some stability.
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Whether you decide to rebuild together or find a healthy way to part, therapy provides a space where you can be heard without judgment. You don't have to navigate this pain alone. Let’s start the process of finding clarity and healing today.
Our Specialized Approach
We use a trauma-informed lens to help both partners (or individuals) find clarity
Managing Betrayal Trauma
We use EMDR to help the betrayed partner process the "stuck" intrusive memories and triggers associated with the discovery.
Identifying the Gaps
Using CBT, we identify the negative cycles and communication breakdowns that preceded the crisis without shifting blame.
Rebuilding the Foundation
We guide you through the stages of healing trust—transparency, accountability, and eventually, emotional safety.
Meet Our Infidelity Specialists
We specialize in helping you break the cycle where anxiety and depression overlap, using evidence-based tools to help you reclaim your energy and find mental clarity.
Nachum Kaplan (Nak)
Therapist (Master of Counselling, Member of SAC)
Nachum is a therapist and Clinical Member of the SAC, with a Master's from Monash University. His background in high-stakes environments gives him a grounded understanding of shame, broken trust, and the identity disruption that follows betrayal. Using CBT and insights drawn from leadership and lived experience, he helps clients untangle the meanings they attach to what happened — moving beyond spiralling self-blame or avoidance toward honest reckoning and recovery. Nachum works particularly with men processing infidelity, whether as the betrayed or the one who strayed — offering a structured, non-judgmental space to rebuild integrity and self-worth.
Tong Hui Wen
Lead Therapist (Master of Counselling, Member of SAC)
Hui Wen is an empathetic and collaborative senior therapist who specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate the profound "relational trauma" and emotional overwhelm that follows infidelity. Known for her calm presence and clinical depth, she helps clients move past the "shattering" effect of betrayal to rebuild a sense of internal safety that is no longer dependent on external reassurance or unstable foundations.
With extensive experience in complex trauma and emotional dysregulation, Hui Wen integrates CBT, Attachment Theory, and EMDR to help partners recognize and tolerate intense internal states without shutting down. As a qualified clinical supervisor and member of the Singapore Association for Counselling (SAC), she provides a structured, grounded space for couples to de-escalate conflict, restore a sense of agency, and explore whether a new, more authentic connection can be forged from the pieces of the old one.
Jessy Quilindo
Therapist (Master of Counselling, Member of SAC)
Jessy is a relational therapist with a Master of Counselling from Monash University, accredited with the ACA and SAC. Her deep understanding of attachment wounds, relational rupture, and betrayal makes her uniquely equipped to support those navigating the aftermath of infidelity. Drawing on Internal Family Systems (IFS), nervous system regulation, and mind–body awareness, she helps clients process shock, grief, and shattered trust — at their own pace. Jessy works especially with women who appear strong outwardly but are privately unravelling. Her approach is steady, non-judgmental, and rooted in the belief that genuine healing begins with feeling truly seen.
Muxin
Hypotherapist (Member of NGH)
Muxin is a registered member of the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH) who works at the subconscious level — where beliefs about trust, self-worth, and relationships are deeply stored. Following infidelity, many people find that understanding what happened is not enough — the hurt, shame, and self-doubt persist beneath conscious reasoning. Muxin's calm, client-centred approach helps clients access and shift these deeper layers, reducing the emotional overactivity that keeps them stuck and rebuilding a more stable, internal sense of self-worth. Her work supports those who feel they should be "over it" by now — but whose inner world tells a different story.
Why Clients Trust Us
"Working with Nachum has been a turning point for me. Before our sessions, my thoughts felt like they were constantly spiralling — overthinking every conversation, doubting my decisions, and overthinking is tiring!
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He was able to help me see the patterns in my thinking and gave me clear, structured ways to challenge them without making me feel judged or “broken.”
Simone Wong
"Jessy has a gentle and compassionate way of listening that makes you feel truly seen and understood. At the same time, she has an incredible ability to ask the right questions that help you uncover patterns in your thoughts, emotions, and relationships that you might not have noticed on your own."
Nicole Yang
"Working with Jessy has been one of the most meaningful investments I’ve made in myself. She has a calm, reassuring presence that makes it easier to talk about difficult experiences and emotions.
Jessy helped me recognize patterns in my relationships and understand the deeper needs behind my reactions. Her insights are thoughtful and practical, and she guides you in a way that helps you feel empowered rather than dependent."
Lola
"I started seeing Nachum during a period when I felt so stuck in my life. I was constantly replaying situations in my head, second-guessing myself, and feeling overwhelmed by decisions both at work and in my personal life.
Nachum has the ability to cut through the noise and help you see the bigger pattern behind your thoughts and reactions. He has a very clear and structured way of working that makes complex emotions easier to understand."
Jay
FAQs
Q: Is it even possible to recover from infidelity — or are we just delaying the inevitable?
A: That's one of the most honest questions a couple can ask, and there's no universal answer. What we can tell you is that recovery is possible — but only if both partners are willing to do real work, not just move past it. Therapy helps you figure out which category you're in, without pressure in either direction. Some couples rebuild something stronger. Others find clarity that the relationship has run its course. Both are valid outcomes.
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Q: My partner wants to save the relationship but I'm not sure I do. Can therapy still help?
A: Yes — and this ambivalence is actually very common in the aftermath of infidelity. You don't need to have made a decision before starting therapy. In fact, coming in uncertain is often more honest than coming in with false resolve. Therapy creates a space to process what happened, understand what it means for you, and make a decision from a clearer place rather than from the height of pain or shock.
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Q: How do I stop the obsessive thoughts and mental images?
A: Intrusive thoughts and mental replaying are a normal trauma response to betrayal — your brain is trying to process something that doesn't make sense. Therapy directly addresses this. Using structured CBT techniques, we help you interrupt the cycle of rumination and reduce the emotional intensity of these thoughts over time, without forcing you to simply "move on" before you're ready.
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Q: The person who cheated — how do we rebuild trust without it feeling forced?
A: Trust isn't rebuilt through promises — it's rebuilt through consistent, observable behaviour over time, and through understanding what broke down in the first place. Therapy helps the betraying partner take genuine accountability, and helps both of you identify the patterns — in communication, emotional distance, or unmet needs — that created vulnerability in the relationship. This isn't about blame. It's about understanding.
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Q: Do we have to come in together, or can I come alone?
A: Either works, and sometimes starting individually makes more sense — especially if one partner isn't ready or willing to attend. Individual sessions can help you process the betrayal, get clarity on what you want, and prepare for couples work if and when that becomes appropriate.
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Q: What does couples therapy for infidelity actually look like?
A: Sessions are structured and facilitated — your therapist guides the conversation so it doesn't collapse into blame or defensiveness. Early sessions focus on stabilising the immediate crisis and establishing safety for both partners to speak and be heard. From there, the work moves toward understanding, accountability, and — if both partners choose — rebuilding.
Q: How long does a session last?
A: Standard individual sessions last 50 to 60 minutes. Depending on the complexity of the goals we are working toward, some specialized sessions may be scheduled for up to 90 minutes.
Q: How much does a session cost?
A: An in-person session costs $250. If you would like to have the session virtually, it costs $150 per online session.
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Q: Is my information kept confidential?
A: Absolutely. As Licensed SAC Clinical Members, we maintain a strict legal and ethical duty to protect your privacy. All sessions are confidential, and your clinical records are stored on a secure, encrypted platform accessible only to your therapeutic team. You remain in full control of the pace and depth of our work together.
You don't have to carry this alone.
Whether you want to repair the relationship or find a healthy way to part, we are here to support your healing.